In Trouble as a Couple? 10 Simple Things that Can Help

We do need to get to the bottom of things, however, making small behavioural changes can make a difference, even if you are “faking it, til you make it”, in the beginning.

10 simple things that can help

1. Seek your partner out when you get home or they come home
2. Greet them, like you used to with a big hello and a kiss and a “How’s you day been?”
3. When they speak be present and pay attention – stop what you are doing for a moment and be in the moment with them.
4. Just listen and hold your reaction or response
5. Let your partner know what you heard them say and what you understood those words meant and vice versa – take it in turns
6. Do more of the things that work and less of the things that don’t work
7. Do stuff together
8. And do stuff on your own – ie have your own interests
9. Socialise with others – your partner is your “significant other” however it is more fulfilling to also have others in your life.
10. Be kind to each other and let your partner know you love them either with actions or words or both. Be grateful.