- Turn a negative into a positive eg instead of saying “You don’t show me any affection” say “I would like more affection”
- Be action orientated – For example, If you want to communicate better when you arrive home or your partner arrives home then STOP what you are doing, look your partner in the eyes and ask them about their day and really listen. And of course take it in turns.
- Do small doable steps – little things can make a difference.
- Ask yourself what your partner would say about the problem/issue
- Ask your partner what they think is the problem and try to see it from their point of view
- Ask yourself what you have been trying to do to improve things, ie what strategies have you tried and have they worked or not. If they haven’t worked why do you think they haven’t work (or if they have why)
- Do less of what isn’t working and more of what is working
- Ask yourself this question ‘will what I am about to do bring me closer or further apart from my partner?’
- Have you got a zany idea of what might work. Put everything on the table.
- Be kind and be grateful because they are always options
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